Celebrating the Small Victories

With roughly 65 more days to go until we are reunited with the Hubs, we have all hit our limit it seems.

small victories The kids and I have been fighting with eachother almost everyday. Our patience has reached a limit. They miss their daddy and I miss my husband.

During the first 50 days of our separation I’ve realized that I have been sabotaging these days that I have with my kids. These days that could prove to be very bonding for the three of us. These days that will help make or break this huge move that we have ahead of us.

When I started running a couple years ago my self talk was SO negative that I was essentially talking myself out of having a good run. I was essentially doing the same thing with this current situation.

Each day was filled with an inner dialogue about how I hated not having my husband home. How it was too hard to be mom, dad, disciplinarian, nurturer, and everything else in between. How either the kids or I weren’t going to survive. (This was more of a joke, but in full honesty there were days when I thought this was a possiblity.)

Last week I hit a breaking point. After one particularly terrible night which ended in tears for everyone involved, I finally became aware of the negative dialogue I was having with myself everyday. I looked in the mirror and didn’t like what I saw. I had turned into a mother who wasn’t enjoying her kids. I wasn’t finding joy in the little things that happened everyday, instead I was focusing on all the terrible things that became so much bigger because that was all I allowed myself to see.

I can’t thank God enough for opening my eyes to what was going on. Since Monday of this week I have ended each day with a list of the small victories that we have had. These range from a morning without arguing before school to accomplishing a task that my husband usually takes care of. In just two days of doing this there has already been a turn around in attitudes for everyone in the house. The kids and I are laughing more. Hugging more.

I’m not wearing rose colored glasses. I know that there may be days when it’s hard to find even one small victory to celebrate, but I will find it. I think it is important to find it. And I encourage all of you to do the same. Start today, before you go to bed post on Facebook, Twitter, or write in a journal at least one small victory from your day. It’s my hope that by the time my husband is reunited with the rest of our family we will all have a more positive outlook and be in a much better position to overcome whatever obstacles may face us in the next four years as we are thousands of miles away from our loved ones.



We Survived the LISTERINE® 21 Day Challenge!

We’ve done it!

So, when we first started our sponsored LISTERINE® 21 Day Challenge I was excited to see how eager the kids were to jump on board. But in the back of my head I was worried that after the first week I would begin to push back from the kiddos not wanting to continue.

I’m happy to say that this didn’t happen at all!

The kids have adapted to this change in their teeth hygiene very week. It has become completely second nature to them. To the point that last week, as we were getting ready for bedtime, I was exhausted and quite frankly brushing teeth was farthest from my mind. But not for the kids. We headed upstairs and the kids both went into their bathroom, I was a little irritated because I had told them to go to bed and when I reminded them of that I heard, “Mom, we have to floss, brush, and swish first.” Needless to say, I turned my attitude around quick and told them they are awesome.

listerine 21 day challenge

I’m really kicking myself for not instating this routine earlier. Letting the kids pick out their own mouthwash and floss really kept them looking forward to it every night.

So, moms, if you are tired of fighting your kids to brush their teeth and floss and if they could use some mouthwash – then I highly suggest taking on the LISTERINE® 21 Day Challenge in your house!

And don’t forget LISTERINE® is still having the “Swish Selfie” contest on their Facebook page giving you a chance to win $500! Not only that, but for every person who posts a “Swish Selfie” LISTERINE® Brand will make a $5.00 contribution to Oral Health American’s Smiles Across America Program, up to $85,000!

Disclosure: I received a Target gift card to purchase LISTERINE® Brand products from Johnson & Johnson Healthcare Products Division of McNEIL-PPC, Inc. and The Motherhood as part of my participation in the LISTERINE® 21-Day Challenge. All thoughts and opinion expressed in this post are my own.

It’s time for a change this year.

Typically, the start of the near year brings eagerness for a fresh start.

This new year brought with it apprehension for me since our family is preparing for a large cross country move.

The first month of this year have been anxiety filled as we helped my husband get ready to move first and the kids and I readied ourselves to adapt to life without him here.

This month, my anxiety has been building and I realize that I need to find a outlet to release it.

Blog Forward Badge 250x250[1][1] It wasn’t too long ago that I used exercise as a stress and anxiety reliever, but with taking my business to the next level I have realized that excuses are much more frequent than my workouts. That’s why I’m excited to take part in the Blog Forward Challenge from ZonePerfect. As part of the program I will be taking part in challenges throughout the year and I’ll even be able to bring you some giveaways.

My first challenge is to come up with 3-5 New Year Resolutions. Now, I don’t like making New Year Resolutions. I think the name has gotten a bad rap and just sets one up for failure. Instead, I like just making goals, I think goals offer a much more progress friendly atmosphere. :)
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