First day gone bad..

First off, I realize that it has only been one day.

One day of dropping off my son for his first day of 1st grade.
One day of crying in the Walmart parking lot because my son is in 1st grade.
One day of having my son away at school ALL day.
One day of keeping my daughter entertained while her big brother is at school.
One day of looking forward to hearing how great his day was and all the friends he made.
One day of seeing my son’s face when I picked him up and having him almost break into tears.

When we decided to put my son in public school this year we anticipated there to be a smooth transition. Our son is very sociable. I often joke that he can make friends with a paper sack. I completely anticipated going to pick him up and having him ask me if his new friend could come over. You can see why I was so surprised when he told me how terrible his day was. I listened to him tell me one instance after another, with each story my heart sunk deeper. I admit that at first I took what he said with a grain of salt, but as he told me one story of a child blaming him for something he didn’t do then telling the teach to get him in trouble, I watched as he got choked up and ended the story by saying, “Mom, I’m the only nice kid. Why is everyone mean?” There is no way he would get worked up like this if there was any chance he was guilty of doing what the other child had accused him of.

He spent an hour and a half just sitting on the couch not wanting to do anything when we got home. Luckily, his little sister was able to get him out of his funk and his evening was much better.

It hurts when your child is in pain. Physically hurts. I know that I can’t protect him from all the jerks in the world, I just never thought we would be faced with so many of them in 1st grade. Although, I did email his teacher just to let her know that he might be having a hard time with the transition from private to public school, I wanted to focus more on giving him the tools to handle these circumstances.

Before bed we talked about how we can make tomorrow a better day.
We talked about the importance of treating others the way we want to be treated and how even more important it is to continue to treat them that way even when they choose not to.

Tomorrow is a new day and as I hang the closed sign on today, all I can do is pray and ask God to help my son stay true to himself and place those kids that can recognize what a fantastic friend he can be.

Comments

  1. Poor little guy. Hope today was a better day at school.
    MusingsfromMe/Jill´s last blog post ..Seizing Family Time with Family Movie Night

  2. So sorry to hear about your son’s 1st day! My Kindergartener is struggling a bit with going to school since his best friend hurt his feelings in preK last year. I’m hoping that all will go well tomorrow when we start school.

    Good luck tomorrow!

  3. I’m so sorry to hear his first day was so tough. I hope today is better.

  4. Oh, poor little dude. I really hope his today was better than yesterday.
    Lisa @ Crazy Adventures in Parenting´s last blog post ..Adventures in Hair-Dos and Beauty Products with Toddler Girls

  5. I had the same issues last year putting my boys in public school.I tried everything I could to make it easier on them but couldn’t stop the bullying,name calling and even physical abuse they endured in their first weeks.I found that giving them something neat and original helped them break the ice.We used Smiley Cookies .When the other kids saw them,it gave them something to talk about,which in turn helped them make new friends.I hope it gets better for him and for you too!
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  6. I am hopeful that this is not the same story you could have written several more times this week. It’s hard – really hard – to make new friends sometimes. Even if all of them are exactly the same, all it sometimes takes is one whim to change a day for a whole group of children.

    Thinking of you!
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