Moving on from bribery..

kid pointzWe’ve all been there.

You’re in the (insert type of store here,) and your kids are acting up. They aren’t listening, they are fighting with each other and basically running amok in the store. No amount of stern talk or even threatening them within an inch of their lives is doing any good. The list of just 5 things you needed to get is seeming more daunting with each passing second.

Suddenly, you fall back on the one sure fire thing that flips their behavior around 180 degrees.

Bribery.

“If you can be good in the store long enough for me to finish the list I will buy/get you XYZ.”

Yep, I’ve done that more times than I care to count. It really seems to be the only thing that snaps my kids out of the bad behavior spiral.

Recently, I was trying to come up with some kind of system that I could use that got rid of the bribery and would instead compel my kids to behave.

When my son was in kindergarten his teacher had behavior charts for all the kids. Each day that the kids followed the rules of the classroom, which included: listening the first time and being courteous to one another, they received a stamp on their chart. When their chart was filled, they were given 5 seconds to pick a prize out of the treasure chest.

full behavior chartMy son seemed to really benefit from the chart. Not only did it help him with following the rules but he also learned that when you made a mistake it was forgiven and you started new the next day.

It took him a while to fill up his first chart, but he was so proud when he came home and showed me the prize he was able to pick out.

I reasoned that since he had done such a great job with that system then, that perhaps he would again 2 years later.

I was extremely excited when I received an email from KidPointz with an invitation to check out their site.

Kid Pointz is a free site that offers help with positive parenting. It’s also a great resource where you can print out behavior charts, chore charts, workbooks and even worksheets.

There are a ton of different designs to choose from and I was happy to see several sports themes. I think my son will enjoy the design I chose and after some quick customization in photoshop, we are ready to go.

kid pointz behavior chart

My plan is simple. Each day that my son displays the behaviors that I have chosen, (I kept it to 3 for now and plan on adding more as he gets used to the system,) he will receive the amount of points designated. Once he gets a total of 150 points he will be eligible for a trip to the prize bucket. This week I am going to take him with me to the store to help pick out items to put inside. These will not be big ticket items at all, but I do want them to be somewhat educational in nature so there will be a few books intermingled with games and maybe a couple of toys.

I’m trying this with my son first for 2 reasons. One, we seem to butt heads the most when it comes to his behavior and I’m hoping this will remedy that. Secondly, my youngest daughter follows my son’s example more often than not. If his behavior improves, her’s will as well.

I’ll be sure to report back with how it goes. In the mean time I would love to hear about any ideas you may have to reinforce positive behavior, or maybe your favorite cocktail recipe. ­čśë

Disclosure: I was compensated for this post and writing it also serves as my submission to be the next Kid Pointz Blogger. This in no one altered my opinion. As always, my thoughts, my words, my life.

Comments

  1. RobMonroe says:

    What an awesome idea! We used a chore chart once about a year ago with Abby with a princess doll as the prize. We didn’t buy it until she filled it up, and she knew that, so the trip to the store was a big deal. Well, too big of a deal I think, I like your route better, I’ll be hanging onto this!

  2. LOVE this idea!! Will totally have to check it out!

    Hillary
    hchybinski┬┤s last blog post ..Squeezing the Last Bit of Summer Out with Some Little League World Series

  3. Great idea. I am clicking the links!
    Lee Reyes-Fournier┬┤s last blog post ..We Are Number 1. (ish)

Trackbacks

  1. […] “Moving on From Bribery…” by Tine, The Mad Hatter Mom […]

Speak Your Mind

*

CommentLuv badge

css.php